What really makes you
Money won't do it, although you do need enough to live by your own standards of comfort. As an increasing number of lottery winners will tell you, money on its own does not make people happy. The equation is a bit more complicated.
Time in itself won't help; it's what you elect to do with your time that's significant.
Status may bring trappings that are appealing, but usually these are accompanied by significant responsibilities.
Achievement. Now there's something that drives a lot of people! But what lies beyond the moment of self-satisfaction when you have completed the project?
Where everything leads is to people ~ other people.
Very few of us operate in isolation, where the approval of others is irrelevant; where we are totally self-reliant. We are social creatures - hence our preoccupation with our society. We measure our success by comparing ourselves with our family, friends, neighbours, or by some other arbitrary yardstick, such as how much our partner complains.
We seldom take time to ask the fundamental questions, such as, "Why am I doing this job if it's not what I really want to do?"
How do you know? Ask yourself this question: "If I won the Lottery, would I still do the job I do now?" If not, you're in the wrong job. It really is that simple.
Now you may say, "That's not fair - everyone would choose to do things differently in those circumstances."
Why? Do you imagine that work can never be enjoyable? Why else would really wealthy people choose to do it?
Or you might believe that the job you'd really like to do wouldn't earn you enough money. Why not? That's a very negative assumption for a start - probably based on other people's experience. But the significant word here is 'enough'. What would be enough - if it really made you happy?
Sure, if your earnings dropped significantly, you'd have to re-assess your priorities. Maybe make more of your own entertainment, wear less stylish clothes, live in more modest circumstances... but what is really important to you?
This is when many people start to lose the plot. This is when dependants become the main focus of consideration. "Oh no," you'll say, "I'm happy to do it for them!" Partly true - except that you aren't really happy - and in truth you're probably not doing it for them. We're very good at convincing not only others, but ourselves, that we do things unselfishly. Again, we've been conditioned to regard unselfishness as 'good' and self-centredness as 'bad'.
What does being 'self-centred' mean to you? Selfish? Introspective? Inconsiderate? Look at this from the other end. What would a 'self off-centred' person be like? This may be a new term for you (I just made it up), but you get the picture... of someone who's not sure where they're coming from, where they're going, or why, or how... the point is that being self-centred is about being clear about your personal responsibilities; operating from a position of balance.
So, from a position of 'centred self', in choosing to do things for other people, we can acknowledge that we derive satisfaction. In other words, we are really doing these things to satisfy our desire to please others. It's a more honest approach, which allows us to return to the question about what we really want to do - and why.