I don't get along with someone at work

I don't get along with someone at work

 

Our whole lives are fundamentally affected by our relationships with those around us ~ both at work and at home. Most people spend more time thinking about relationships than anything else. It's very difficult to remain objective about our own relationships ~ even if we are sensitive to other people's feelings.

Are you the only one not getting along with this person? If so, and you know what the problem is, take the initiative to fix it. If you don't know why there seems to be a problem, ask them. Any reasonable person will prefer to get along with their workmates.

If someone is making life difficult for several people, try to persuade them all to join with you in meeting with that person to sort things out. You can avoid unpleasantness by agreeing not to make accusations or pass judgement, instead simply reporting your feelings. For example, you might say something like, "When you criticise my work I feel belittled." If the person is not pulling their weight you could say, "When I have to do this extra work I feel extra tired."

If someone at work is bullying you, be sure to tell someone about it and find out if anyone else is suffering. Bullies are cowards at heart, so think about what is scaring them. Are they threatened by your skills, competence or productivity? Perhaps you can pour oil on troubled waters.